Summer is almost here and I’m already finding myself knee-deep in summer plans. Now a lot of moms will have their kids’ summer schedule completely planned out week to week; from vacations to camp, to playdates with friends. But I’ve learned that a summer break is important and I’m making sure to leave space for downtime.
Kids spend their school year scheduled to the max. They spend their days at school where the daily schedule is the first thing they see as they walk into class. Teachers setting timers and punching the clock to make sure they get in language arts, math, science, and extras like music and PE. Then, our kids’ afternoons and evenings are full of baseball and soccer practice, piano lessons, and scout meetings. These kids finally make it to bed and are back up to do it all over again the next day.
I’m not knocking routines and schedules. I’m a planner for sure! We have a family calendar posted for all to see, and I spend a lot of time making sure we are not double booked, and everyone makes it where they need to be at the right time. But I’ve found that the summer break provides an opportunity to step away from that rigid routine and allow my kids to manage their own time and actually entertain themselves.
These are important skills for them to learn!
Years Ago…
For us, this training started years ago. When my kids were little, I planned a few events each day and they filled in the other time with their own choices. As they grew, my planning was less, and their choices took over more of the day. Now, at 16 and 11, they need minimal help from me to manage their time. They know how to make a to-do list, prioritize their activities, and manage their own time to get done what needs to be done. They can set their own schedules now. Their spare time is just that – theirs! They find ways to fill the time doing the things they enjoy and find value in.
Of course, from time to time, they need a little redirecting and guidance. We don’t play video games all day or stay on our phones for hours. They understand that they need some moderation. They make time for exercise, fresh air, creative things, and hanging out with friends. Most often, they do a great job managing their own time.
Downtime Matters
So, this summer we do have a family vacation planned. They also have some sports camps planned and even a few college visits for the high schooler. But we’ve taken the month of June mostly off. This is their downtime. Downtime to regroup, refresh, relax, and renew. I’ll be there to help, but this is their time to grow their independence and learn how to take care of themselves.
I encourage you to find some downtime for your kids this summer – whether it’s a few days, a week, or a month. Provide them with the framework to start managing a few things on their own. I think you will be amazed at what they do and just how great a little downtime can be for everyone!
